Hope Can Be Found in Even the Darkest Days (‘Hope Prevails’ Book Review/Giveaway)

“When walking in the valley, the only way out is up. He is our only path out of our despair.”
~Dr. Michelle Bengtson, Hope Prevails

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Some of us find ourselves trudging in deep valleys, others journey through shallower ones. Regardless, the only way out is to grasp onto hope. Yet sometimes that hope is lost in the darkness.

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Dr. Michelle Bengtson, in her book Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey through Depression, assures us that we won’t dwell in that valley forever. She helps us learn where to find a glimmer of hope, in even our darkest days.

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Although I strongly supported the message of this book from the moment I heard about it, I hesitated to read and review it, thinking it didn’t really pertain to me. After all, I didn’t suffer from long-term debilitating depression. I couldn’t have been more wrong!

We all need a hope that prevails, because we all face affliction. In the pages of Hope Prevails rings encouragement for all who walk through dark seasons. And that’s all of us!

With her knowledge as a board-certified neuropsychologist, Dr. Bengtson discusses the underlying causes of depression and the traditional treatments available. And with the compassion of one who’s been in that darkest valley and eventually found her way out, she tenderly speaks to the reader’s heart and honestly shares what finally made the difference for her. 

Although exploring all the underlying causes of depression is an important step in healing, Dr. Bengtson suggests that addressing the spiritual roots is often a missing critical component in treatment. The missing piece that eventually lead to her freedom.

The Enemy

We have an enemy that is a spirit, and Dr. Bengtson contends, “he seeks to separate believers and nonbelievers alike from God.” He does so by feeding us lies. Lies we often unconsciously agree with. 

Ignoring Satan’s hand in guiding our thoughts, allows the enemy of our souls an open door to influence our lives in a negative way. He leads us down a spiraling staircase into a deep, dark hole of despair.

Yet, he hasn’t won, far from it! 

We can find freedom in any situation because in the Lord, hope does indeed prevail.

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Hope in the Darkest of Days

When we realize the enemy’s tricks, we can gain weapons in our arsenal to fight them. 

Dr. Bengtson provides such weapons throughout the book. She includes exercises at the end of each chapter that proved instrumental in her own journey out of depression, including Scripture verses to memorize and a playlists of songs. Along with those, the reader is encouraged to offer ongoing praise to God, even when we don’t feel it. 

“In those periods of despair, I had to choose to believe God and trust in his promises rather than my feelings,” confessed Dr. Bengtson.

Separate chapters in Hope Prevails explore practical ways to recover your joy, reclaim your peace, and reestablish your identity, the three primary areas the enemy attacks. For instance, practicing gratitude, serving others, and praying often help us recover joy. 

Scripture verses fill the pages of Hope Prevails, because that’s where we find truth. However, to grasp and truly believe that truth, we need to saturate ourselves in the promises of Scripture. 

Because when we replace Satan’s lies with the truth of God’s Word and fill our days with praise, feel like it or not, we are well on our journey out of the valley. 

“I will rejoice and be glad in Your faithful love
because You have seen my affliction.
You have known the troubles of my life” Psalm 31:7

Reflections: Are you currently walking through a dark season? What is one truth from Scripture you can claim to replace a lie the enemy has been feeding you?

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A Surprising Suggestion for When You Are Unable To Move Forward in an Area

Sometimes to move forward you must step back, occasionally even step aside. 

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Paralyzed

You may have noticed I’ve been rather quiet on this blog for a while now. It’s not that I don’t want to encourage you. 

In fact it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with me. I’ve been paralyzed to write much. 

I’m not sure what triggered my writing paralysis.

It may have started with the schedule upheaval that occurred when I began a new part-time job.

It may have been caused by a bit of burnout or over-commitment.

Perhaps it was introduced by the very difficult life decisions my husband and I have to make in the looming future. 

My guess is it is a combination of many things. Regardless of the cause, I’ve tried to push my way through the writing block. Yet the harder I try, the more stuck I’ve become.

step aside to move forward

Move Forward

We often try to solve a problem that’s not ours to solve. I’ve tried to get out of this writing desert by my own power and understanding.

But the more tools I’ve tried to implement, the more “advice” I’ve put into practice, the less I can write.

I’m slowly coming to the realization that I’ve made “recovery” all about me.

My writing was always meant to be an offshoot of my faith. But where’s the faith when I’m doing it on my own.

If I always take the lead, how am I expressing my trust in the Lord? When I’m plowing forward with little regard to where He wants me in this journey, there’s little room for God to get the glory. 

True, part of getting through writing block is to sit down and write. Just do it! B.O.B. time as my son’s piano teacher used to coach: Butt On Bench Time.

But perhaps the biggest part of moving forward in an area is stepping back to see what might be in the way. And that involves asking God for His wisdom and insight.

When we step back or even move aside, we allow God to take the lead, guiding us around or through the obstacles in our way.

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Permission Granted

I can’t say I’m back in full writing mode yet. But today there’s a difference.

Today I’ve let the frustration melt away and chose to trust God to provide the words.

This is not my writing ministry; it’s the Lord’s. In His perfect timing. When He’s revealed the obstacles in my way and led me around or through them, then my writing will once again flow.

Until then, I’m giving myself permission to step back and wait on Him. That’s trust … and I’m learning a lot about it in this writing desert I’m journeying through.

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“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

Reflections: Do you find yourself paralyzed in an area of your life? Have you thought about giving yourself permission to step back or aside, letting God direct and lead you through this desert?

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Posted in Christian walk, trust, Writing

Tears Water the Soil of Our Hearts

A natural crier, I often wish I could stop up the tears that seem to come so easily.

Yet maybe it’s the tears we shed that water our parched hearts, preparing them to receive the seeds of growth God plants.

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Tears

Nineteen Years of Crying

It seems I’ve been crying since the day my girl was born.

My third child, I cried for the miracle of new life, and I wept for my first girl.

And then I cried …

  • When Rachel quit breathing at a little over a month old.
  • During the long nights of apnea monitoring.
  • Through exhausting days of nursing and pumping to give my tiny treasure, whose cleft palate wouldn’t allow her to properly drink, the best nutrition.
  • While undertaking the grueling job of getting her to drink following her cleft repair.
  • When we heard, “lifelong disability.”
  • When she said her first word and took her first unaided step, both around her 4 year old mark.
  • Marking each school year of growth that always ended with greater discrepancy with her peers.
  • When Rachel attended her first dance in 8th grade at the insistence of her friend Kenna. Not only did Kenna and her friends invite Rach but they welcomed her as one of them, helping her do her hair and making it a golden night.
  • After the call I received informing us that the senior class had chosen Rachel to be on the Homecoming court.
  • The night she was crowned Homecoming Queen!
  • When the surgeon informed us after nearly 7 hours of surgery that her vascular transplantation went wonderfully.
  • The afternoon Rachel walked across the stage at commencement flanked by two friends to receive her diploma cover and the applause from her peers and the audience.

Tears of joy, sorrow, pain, frustration, relief, overwhelming gratitude: I’ve shed them all during this girl’s 19 years of life.

Purpose To Our Tears 

And there’s two things I’m certain of concerning those tears:

1. They will continue and

2. They’ve watered hearts, helping to produce growth in the lives of many, perhaps most of all, me.

So don’t fear the tears you’re compelled to shed. After all, every heart needs to be watered to grow.

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Happy Birthday, Rachel

I couldn’t be more blessed to celebrate the life of this daughter of mine.

A daughter in name, but so much more, a daughter of my heart.

Happy 19th birthday, Rachel! This world is far richer with you in it.

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“You Yourself have recorded my wanderings. Put my tears in Your bottle. Are they not in Your records?” Psalm 56:8

Reflections: What growth have you experienced in your life that were watered by the tears?

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Posted in Daily Living, Disability/Special Needs

Hope for When You’re in a Hard Place

Many of the hardest things in life prove to be the most valuable.

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hard often delivers great blessings

It’s Hard!

I once thought parenting would be easy. It’s not.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how truly inadequate I feel for this job, even after nearly 23 years. I thought it’d get easier. And in some ways it has. Yet in other ways, not so much. 

While there may not be as constant a barrage of issues to address as when the kids were young, when faced with them now, they’re often much bigger and more significant.

I have far less knowledge and say about my young adult children’s activities and choices.

The gap between typically developing peers and Rachel grows wider.

The difficulties of raising a child with special needs become compounded by the need to provide for her future, eventually without you.

Seeing my children separate and make their own way in life, while a wonderful and sought-after outcome of parenting, brings an ache to my heart. 

The Value of Hard

Yet, despite the continued weight of parenting, I’m blessed to be a mama. Incredibly blessed. 

I’ve grown exponentially since that day I held my firstborn. I’ve grown in ways I never expected…. in ways impossible had I not been stretched by the uncomfortable and hard moments. 

But that’s how it is with most things. The hardest things often deliver the greatest blessings.

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Bringing a baby into the world. Going through the long and arduous journey to adoption. 

Completing a college degree. Getting that promotion at work. 

Cultivating a thriving marriage. Trusting God when the going gets near impossible. 

Blessing of Being Faithful Where You Are

Being a mother is among the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Being a mother to a child with disabilities is and will continue to add to the burden I feel. 

Yet the blessing of motherhood has far outweighed the load. Because the blessing of being faithful where God has placed you always outweighs the burden of walking it out.

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This is true whether or not you are a parent.  We all have hard journeys. Ones also filled with obstacles and unexpected turns. 

Yet wherever you find yourself:

  • single or married
  • mother or childless
  • employed or in-between jobs
  • healthy or disabled
  • young or elderly

you’ll also find blessings. Blessings that will actually strengthen you to carry the load you’ve been given. 

On this Mother’s Day weekend, when many grieve estranged children, sick children, or no children, let me offer a little encouragement: 

Wherever you find yourself, in whatever situation you face, that is where the grass is greenest for you, for now. Don’t long for the other side. Chances are when you get there, you’ll discover it’s all a mirage.

Best Place for You

The lushest grass, the best place for you to be now is the place you find yourself in right now. It’s often the hardest one to walk through. And it may look anything but fertile and rich.

But blessings will flow out of your faithfulness. As you trust God’s plan for your life, you’ll begin to see the gems poking through the mess.

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“Wait for the Lordbe strong and courageous. Wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14

Reflections: Where is the hard place you’re asked to be? Have you gotten a glimpse of the blessings of faithfully walking through it? 

 

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Posted in Christian walk, Daily Living, mothers, Parenting, Perspective, Uncategorized

The Constant to Cling To When Facing Seasons of Change

It can be difficult to move on in the midst of life changes, but God’s a constant we can all count on. 

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In Iowa we have a saying about the weather: If you don’t like it, just wait a minute, it’ll change. That’s the way I feel about my life recently. 

the constant in change

Facing a Whirlwind of Change

Over the past 5 years, my life feels like it’s flipped upside down.

My children are leaving. My work is being transformed. My ministry is morphing. My identity is changing.

I’m no longer a stay-at-home mom to my four children. I’m now only home part-time.

I’m weary of all the changes and struggling to juggle this “new” life.

I had wanted to write about this once I reached the other side, but the other side keeps moving. 

I miss my boys, desperately. I miss the game nights and wrestling. I miss the snowball fights and tucking them in at night.

Some may say I’m entering the good season of life. That’s not how I see it. 

I miss the day-to-day sameness of pouring into my children. The life of a stay-at-home, work-at-home mom suited me well. 

Clinging to the Rock

Yet amid all the changes and the weariness they’re delivering, I’m clinging to two promises:

  1. God has not and will not change.
  2. God still has a good and grace-filled plan for me … and always will.

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The seasons I’ve walked through have been both hard and beautiful. I know the ones coming my way so rapidly will be as well. 

I need to turn my lamenting of my ever-changing life into storing up the treasures in my heart like Mary the mother of Jesus did. I need to offset my fatigue with prayer and time with God.

Changes do and will continue to occur in my life and yours. There’s nothing any of us can do about that.

But during difficult seasons like this one for me, when we struggle with moving past the whirlwind of changes, we have a Rock to anchor us. 

Entering a season of chaos? 

Struggling with changing roles?

Cling tight to your Rock, my friends! God’s a constant in your life that will never change. And even in seasons of change, He still has a good and grace-filled plan for you. 

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“There is no one holy like the Lord. There is no one besides You! And there is no rock like our God.” 1 Samuel 2:2

Reflections: Are you wearied by life changes? Are you facing a season of chaos or a change of roles you don’t want? You can trust God to be your one constant in a lifetime of change. Let Him be your rock! 

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Posted in Change, Christian walk, Daily Living, God, God's attributes

What To Remember When Life Grows Complicated

I whispered it to my husband in the quiet of the night.  A feeling that’s been haunting me for much of this year, growing stronger in recent weeks.

“Life seems so complicated right now.” 

How I long for simpler days. Carefree days of exploring woodlands and floating rivers. Hours free to get lost in a story or dream up an adventure.

Now, a weight threatens to settle permanently on my shoulders. Too much responsibility. Too many demands to squeeze into an already overloaded schedule. 

Sometimes it’s about muscling through these seasons, trusting God to carry me over the mountain. Other times it’s about reducing the load, sifting and winnowing all the nonessentials. 

Both require faith that I’m not alone in this complicated life. Knowing I have someone who cares and will help is the only way I can keep going.

peace and comfort

Peace Is Available Now

Perseverance in the tangled mess of life requires leaning into the One that with a word formed the universe and all that’s in it.

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Taking each next step during hard and overwhelming seasons requires pressing closer to the One that put breath in my lungs and hope in my heart.

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Life right now is complicated. It may remain that way for quite some time.

Hope Prevails

But hope for each day prevails. It prevails because 

“The Lord sat enthroned at the flood;
the Lord sits enthroned, King forever.
11 The Lord gives His people strength;
the Lord blesses His people with peace.” Psalm 29:10-11

*The Lord didn’t just sit previously; He’s enthroned as King now and forever. 

*The Lord didn’t just give once; He continues to provide His strength to all who call Him King. 

*The Lord didn’t just bless His people a long time ago: He, even now and forever, blesses His people with peace in all the difficult messes of life. 

When life becomes, and/or remains complicated, there is still hope. 

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Press into Him. 

Rest in Him.

Draw strength from Him. 

Receive His peace now! Don’t expect it only after the road smooths out.

Remember that as King forever, the Lord Jesus offers us a seemingly impossible peace right in the middle of the overwhelm!

Go ahead, embrace it. I am. 

Reflections: Have you received the peace Jesus offers? It’s not only reserved for when we reach heaven. You can experience it right now, in the middle of the worst mess. What’s stopping you? 

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What Faith in God Brings To My Life (and can bring to yours)

In the hard parts of my days, I often find myself saying, “I don’t know how people do it without faith in God.” 

But what do I really mean by that? What does faith in a living, breathing, almighty Creator who established a relationship with His creation through the suffering and death of His only Son bring to my life? 

Pain, disappointments, and frustrations still frequent my life as they do yours. But through faith in God, hope abounds, even in the worst of circumstances.

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through faith, hope abounds

Hope abounds because I believe with all my heart that I have a Father in heaven who loves me, who wants the best for me, and who is actively working in my life to bring about that best to His glory.

What It Looks Like to Live by Faith

So because of my faith in a sovereign, loving, holy God …  

Mundane days seem a bit more important and purposeful (each day is another step in God’s plan for my life).

Dark times still hold a glimmer of light and always hope (Jesus never leaves me or forsakes me). 

World injustices don’t seem quite so helpless (praying and sharing the truth of salvation are always powerful things to do to help). 

Death of a loved one doesn’t seem so permanent (for those who believe in Jesus as their Savior, death ushers in a glorious new life). 

Painful things aren’t quite so painful (God redeems). 

People’s opinions of me don’t matter quite so much (mercy and grace abound through Christ). 

I don’t have to wear a mask, pretending to be who I’m not (God already knows and loves me for who He made me to be). 

Missed opportunities and lack of certain possessions, don’t matter quite as much (since this world and everything in it is temporary).

Failure on my part doesn’t carry quite as much weight (I’m not the one in charge). 

I don’t have to strive quite so hard (Jesus Christ did the saving of my soul for me). 

What looks really bad may be exactly what I need (an omniscient, omnipresent God has a far greater understanding of what I need than I do). 

I still face painful circumstances. All Christians do, the same as unbelievers.

But by faith I know the Lord redeems all things for those who love Him. And I know unwanted situations are often beneficial challenges that serve to grow and transform me into a better version of me. 

So although I walk a path potholed with pain and frustrations, I walk in unending hope and anticipation. Because my Savior was born, suffered and died, and ascended to the Father … redeeming it all. And He did it all for me (and for you). 

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In faith have hope, my friend. For in Christ, hope abounds! 

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1

Reflections: How have you seen your faith make a difference in your life? How might you share that hope you have in Christ with others who don’t know Him? 

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Walk in the Blessings of a Godly Marriage #wifestylin (book review and giveaway)

If you are in an abusive marriage, please seek professional help!

“Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord,” (Ephesians 5:22).

Wait, don’t click away! This is a beautiful invitation from God, not the horrible demand some women fear it to be.

You’ll feel better after you read God’s charge to husbands a few short verses later:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her,” (Ephesians 5:25).

Wives submit; husbands love. It’s a lovely dance of marriage done right. Yet often this God-ordained union looks anything but lovely.

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Husband Leadership

Marriage Is Hard

Marriage is hard. To be done well, it requires giving and serving. Thinking of another over self. Walking in the roles God set out for each partner.

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Two selfish people unite, and “the two will become one flesh” (Mark 10:8). But to fully become one, she must learn how to respect and he must learn how to love (not often an easy feat for either party).

My Problem

I thought I was doing that … loving and respecting that is. Throughout our 27 years of marriage, I did what I thought I should to be a good wife, not what God said to do. My intentions were good; yet, in many ways I was sabotaging our union.

Instead of being the helper God had chosen for my husband, I wanted to be his conscience, his mother, even in some ways, his savior. I wanted to change my guy to be the guy I wanted, not the man God created.

I disrespected him in an attempt to help him. Um … by the way, that never works.

By God’s grace, my eyes were slowly opened to what my role as a supportive, loving, and respectful wife should be. Developing the habits to live out that role has taken much longer. In fact, I still have a ways to go.

To help me stay on course in becoming the wife my man needs, I’ve been digging into marriage books. The latest is Jen Weaver’s new book, A Wife’s Secret to Happiness: Receiving, Honoring, & Celebrating God’s Role for You in Your Marriage. In it, Jen explores the 11 blessings God wants to bestow on a wife through her marriage and the wifestyle habits that allow her to receive them.

A Wife’s Secret to Happiness

A Wife’s Secret to Happiness is an action-oriented book filled with scriptural truth, practical tips, questions to consider, true-false quizzes, and testimonies from other real-life wives. Throughout, Jen shares honestly about the mistakes she’s made as a less-than-perfect wife and the lessons she’s learned by the blessing of God’s “more-than-perfect provision.”

In each chapter, the author unveils a blessing and then compares the #wifestylin habits that build up or tear down our husbands, and in turn, support or hinder that blessing. Although I found it difficult to answer the true-false quizzes (I wanted to qualify the answers with sometimes or maybe), I thought the tips for application quite helpful.

This book is definitely written with millennials in mind. As a middle-aged woman, I found some of the references and stories a bit distracting. 

Precious Nuggets

However, let me hasten to add that precious nuggets of conviction, encouragement, and truth are woven throughout A Wife’s Secret to Happiness. Wives of any age and stage of marriage will be blessed to receive them.

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Passages like,

“Submission is divine empowerment that culture has confused and the enemy has contorted to mean oppression.”

“Hierarchy is not a product of the Fall; it’s an attribute of the Father. The three Persons of God—the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—show preference and deference to each other.”

“I cannot trust God and reject what he says. If God is good and if everything he does is good, then submission is good. Recognizing my husband’s authority as my leader is good. Obedience to Ephesians 5 is good. To believe otherwise means I doubt God’s character.” 

“How I live as a wife is less about my relationship with my husband and more about my relationship with my Savior.”

“Our actions always show submission to someone—whether to ourselves, the enemy, or to the Lord. We have the opportunity to partner with our husbands with sincere hearts, as servants of Christ.”

“Receiving the blessing of life as a godly wife requires that we follow God’s instructions for our lives as wives.

“The roles the Lord gives us in marriages, and the parts our husbands play, these are positions to celebrate, not tolerate.”

Yellow and orange highlighter adorn many of the pages in my copy. That’s a tribute to how many gems you’ll find in this book. 

Reap the Rewards of a Happy Marriage

Whether you, like me, are further along in your marriage or are just beginning your journey as wife, let Jen make the path smoother. 

Husband-leadership truly is a blessing. For wives it begins with learning to walk out our helper role, respecting our men and reaping the rewards of a happy marriage. In this book, Jen Weaver shows us how. 

Love and Respect

“For this reason a man will leave
his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh.

32 This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:31-33

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How To Best Support One Another (be honest)

“I’ve always thought you had it all together.” My incredulous look followed her into the sanctuary.

Me? Having it all together?

I’m the one who forgot her son at church … not once, but two Sundays in a row. I’m the one who also forgot said son at daycare.

I’m the girl who arrives minutes late to many appointments, because I’m trying to squeeze in that “one more thing.”

I’m the mama who often feels inadequate and overwhelmed for the task at hand. 

For this fellow church member to believe I was put together, floored me. Had I misled people into believing I’m someone I’m not? Certainly not intentionally. 

Me? Having it all together? To quickly dispel such a silly notion, simply follow me around for oh, say an hour. Or ask my husband or children, or even the caregivers who come in to help with Rachel. 

They’ll set you straight. 

Or simply read this blog for awhile. You’ll get a clear picture of the messiness that is me.

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Being Honest About Your Messy Is the Best Policy

Now, I continually try to be more punctual (and not forget my children); however, I’m learning to be okay with the messy side of me.

After all it’s really not about whether we are perfectly put together, but whether we know the One who is. Because God can and does use the most imperfect mess of a person to do great and wondrous things. 

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Look at those Jesus tasked to be among His greatest witnesses:

Saul, a violent persecutor of Christians. Peter, a close friend who later betrayed Him.

Matthew, a tax collector (a hated profession).

And let’s not forget His mother was an unwed young girl when asked to take on this most holy assignment.

And look at the main characters of the stories told throughout Scripture:

A prostitute.

An adulteress. 

A widow. 

The disabled. 

The elderly.

Children.

The barren.

Finally, notice how He didn’t hide His own humanness: 

He wept. 

He became angry (note, He never sinned in that anger like we often do).

He let His disciples see His anguish.

Support One Another

Do I need to tell anyone that life isn’t all kicks and giggles? It can be extremely hard. To pretend it’s not is being dishonest and harmful to others. 

The best way we can support one another, then, is to be vulnerable, honest, and truthful. 

So please, don’t think I have it all together. And please, don’t think you need to either. 

Let’s support each other by sharing our joys and our struggles, the beautiful parts of our lives and the messy. Because in those most exposed moments, we can best point others to the Savior who pulls it all together for us. 

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“Praise the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. He comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any kind of affliction, through the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For as the sufferings of Christ overflow to us, so through Christ our comfort also overflows.”  2 Corinthians 1:3-5, HCSB

Reflections: Let me be honest first: During this new season of working outside the home, I’m struggling against overwhelm. Now your turn: Are you in a season of joy or sorrow, ease or hardship? Please share openly in the comments, so we can rejoice with and encourage one another. 

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Be Comforted in Your Pain (you are never alone)

“Don’t let them hurt me!” My young son’s words broke my heart.

Although his immunizations were necessary, it wasn’t easy to listen to his cries.

Through my nearly 23 years of parenting, I’ve found myself in the doctor’s office countless times with my children. Sometimes the visits have been pleasant, other times not so much.

Yet I want to be there, no matter how difficult the experience … for them and me — even if I can’t take away their pain.

Because I love them, I want them to know they’re not alone in their suffering. I want them to know I care.

My parents desired the same for me.

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Never Alone in Suffering

Yet, sometimes as an adult, I’ve felt alone in my suffering. I’ve fallen into the trap of believing no one could relate or really cared.

That’s far from true on many fronts. I have friends and family members who only want the best for me. Yet, take away all my loved ones and still I’m never alone in my pain.

Because I walk with an ever-present God. Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior, knows the extent and circumstances surrounding my greatest fears and struggles. 

Regardless of my or your circumstances, He can relate. In His suffering and death, He experienced pain far greater than any we’ll endure.

And He cares about us and the struggles we face. He’s present in the beauty of life as well as in the ugly. He’s present when peace fills our days as well as when chaos reigns supreme.

The Lord is there to be our shelter and wipe away our tears. All the while offering words of assurance, “[I] will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6c).

My children will continue to face hard times. We all will. Suffering is a necessary part of growing.

For as long as I can, I will be there offering a shoulder to lean on. But even after I’m long gone from this earth, I can assure them (as I can you):

You never need to be alone in your pain. Walk with Christ, and be comforted by His constant presence. 

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“And remember, I am with you each and every day until the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20b).

Reflections: What struggles are you dealing with today? Are you shouldering through alone or leaning on the One who can offer you a measure of peace and joy in the midst of your trials?

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Hello, I'm Julie, an imperfect wife and mother of four. Life in this broken world is not always easy. Yet, joy can be found in each day through the grace and mercy of the Lord Jesus Christ.

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