Why You Should Never Suffer in Silence

By hiding our suffering, we suppress the evidence of God’s faithfulness as well.

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Recently a lady who is going through a terribly difficult season confessed her feeling of isolation. She said she knew others cared and at times became overwhelmed with the love offered to her family.

Yet at other times she felt like she was all alone on an island, just trying to survive.

And for once I had the perfect words to describe the occasional feelings I experience while raising a child with an undiagnosed genetic syndrome. I know I’m loved and others care, …

… and yet, I experience hours and even days when I feel isolated on an island, just trying to survive.  

Deserted Islands

I don’t believe this island experience is exclusive to me or my friend. In some sense, we all have a deserted island we frequent. 

Maybe we’re sent there by a prodigal.

Maybe a loved one who is terminally ill.

Maybe a disability.

Maybe a financial crisis.

Maybe the sweet but hard and lonely season of caring for babies. 

Maybe a suffocating or dying marriage. 

Maybe an extended and unwanted season of singleness.

A place where as Believers we know God is present, yet we feel so very alone in our specific needs.

Sharing Our Pain and God’s Glory

While soaking in this island metaphor, I began to wonder, If we all possess an area of hurt in our lives, why are we always “okay”? Why is our default answer to the question, How are you?, usually “fine”? 

Why don’t we invite others to our island of grief, so it’s no longer devoid of others, and so we can display God’s work through our suffering?

Even Jesus understood the importance of having friends around during times of deep distress (see the Gethsemane account in Matthew 26). 

Having others around won’t necessarily solve our problems, but it will bring us a measure of comfort in our misery. And more importantly, it will offer witness to God’s faithfulness, to His glory. 

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Sharing in the Suffering of Christ

We offer a disservice to ourselves, to others, and to the Lord by pretending we are okay when we’re not.

When we suffer in silence, we suppress the testimony of the Lord’s faithfulness. But when we invite others into our suffering, we are exposing the evidence,

sharing in the suffering of Christ to display His glory. 

“But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.” 1 Peter 4:13 ESV

So don’t tell me you’re okay when you’re not. Don’t say all is fine when you’re hurting. 

Because I want to sit with you on your island. I want to be there for you in your pain. And I need you to be there for me in mine.

I need to share with you and you need to share with me the work of the Lord in and through our most difficult and painful experiences.

The seeds of hope are planted and watered through the evidence of God’s faithfulness in the trials of this earthly life. 

The seeds of hope are planted and watered thru evidence of God's faithfulness in the trials of this earthly life. Click To Tweet

So invite someone to sit with you when you find yourself on your island yet again and be mutually encouraged in the hope that all will one day be well …

… a day when the full extent of God’s glory will be revealed and where there will be no more tears! 

“We are pressured in every way but not crushed; we are perplexed but not in despair; 9 we are persecuted but not abandoned; we are struck down but not destroyed. 10 We always carry the death of Jesus in our body, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. 11 For we who live are always given over to death because of Jesus, so that Jesus’ life may also be revealed in our mortal flesh.” 2 Corinthians 4:8-11 HCSB

Reflections: What island of suffering do you occasionally find yourself on? How can we pray for you? 

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By His grace ≈

Julie